discussing the sexism in media is not equivalent to hating it. if I hated everything that was sexist, I’d literally never be able to watch tv or a movie or read comics or leave my house, basically.
Rom-coms and romances traditionally end at the wedding—or even the first kiss. And while a wedding is a time- honored way to end a comedy, when that is the only story we can tell, we forget that finally “getting” the girl, finally making it to the altar, is just the start of learning to love. More important, we forget that love is not just for people in romantic relationships. Real love occupies our whole lives.
This is something we learn in friendship, a relationship that, unlike romance, has no natural peak. There’s no final goal for friendship. Rather, friendship is an ongoing process of pursuing intimacy.
This is why psychologists, counselors, and social researchers—both Christian and not—report that one of the clearest predictors of marital success and happiness is friendship between the partners. While romance can stagnate and fluctuate, leaving us looking for the next emotional high, friendship is dynamic and moving. It is about living life together and maturing through loving one another."
I love this piece Alissa Wilkinson did on “the death of romantic comedies” and a new crop of movies and TV shows that depict deep friendship love.
It would be great to see more of it in books, too. I don’t like how romance-centric so much YA fiction has gotten, because as Wilkinson writes, “Romance is not the only kind of love that makes life worth living.” Though my books don’t have romance as their central theme, I realized while writing the book I’m writing now that it’s the only one that doesn’t have a romance or potential romance or even a crush in it.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a good romance. But I hate the idea of teen girls (and boys) thinking they are not a whole or real validated human until they’ve been chosen by someone as an object of romantic pursuit, and having that reiterated in so many of the books they read and almost constantly in movies, and starting really young.
Anyhoo, great article.
District Judge Anna Brown
I dearly wish that people would view their bodies as they view flowers…
Skin patches? Birthmarks?
Scars? Stretch marks?
Freckles? Moles? Acne scars?
Missing a few pieces?
handsome as ever~
Feel like you just look weird?
you’re fantastic looking~
Don’t think I’m gonna be in LA tomorrow
Soo, as I was leaving the Grand Canyon, my car broke down. I was out on the side of the road in the desert for about an hour and a half while I waited for a tow. Then found out my engine is shot and it’s $3,000 to fix it.
That’s clearly not going to happen.
So right now, I’m in a hotel in Williams, AZ instead of hanging out with my former high school English teacher in Vegas and trying to determine my next steps.
I need to get rid of my car and very quickly, though I’m not 100% sure how. I’m looking at peddle.com right now, which seems like it may be my best option since they’ll pay me cash and pick up the car.
Since the only car rental place in Williams is local and has to be returned to Williams, I have to get to Flagstaff. I did find a shuttle that will bring me to the Flagstaff airport where I can rent a car to take me to LA.
Then I’ll need to get a new (used) car to drive in LA.
Did I mention I don’t have a job lined up in LA?
So yeah, today has been not great, probably among the worst days of my life. Any and all suggestions are welcome?
I feel this is very important.
It’s been apparent to me for a while that most men can’t really imagine “equality.” All they can imagine is having the existing power structure inverted.
I cannot decide whether this shows how unimaginative they are, or shows how aware they must be of what they do in order to so deeply fear having it turned on them.
"Most men can’t really imagine “equality.” All they can imagine is having the existing power structure inverted."